Have reconnect time after he finishes his pull away stage.
Rubber band theory in marriage.
The theory is simple distance yourself from the other person become aloof as it were and watch as they come pinging back to you like a stretched rubber band hence the name.
These relationships seem perverse.
Ok so i know what you re thinking isn t that just absence makes the heart grow fonder.
The most important reason is to connect with their more masculine side and to focus on the activities that make them a good provider and partner.
I don t always hear it referred to as the rubber band theory.
We hope we re talking about the same thing because as we think about it the first time we heard about the rubber band theory was when we originally read john gray.
One of our long time subscribers to our newsletters wrote to ask if we support the rubber band theory in relationships in relationship breakthrough coaching practice.
However as a marriage becomes less satisfying and as stress in the marriage grows the tension in the rubber band increases even when nothing stressful is happening.
You may have basically told him to go away and not bother coming back.
But it s definitely true.
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The beauty of the rubber band effect is that you can and should use it at every stage of your relationship to drive up his desire.
Called the rubber band or the male intimacy cycle it s when a man vacillates between being close to his partner and pulling away.
The elastic band theory states that guys are like elastic bands i later amended it to apply broadly to people.
One of our long time subscribers to our newsletters wrote to ask if we support the rubber band theory in relationships in our breakthrough coaching practice.
This is not a happy scene.
I don t know if it s going to be true in your case though because you didn t just let him go and bounce back.
All of a sudden he seems more interested in getting a drink than in you.
Once you get to a point in dating relationship marriage where you have discussed the rubber band theory you can be supportive of his need to pull away but ask that he be supportive of reconnecting when he has had his space.
While this is a normal and.
Just met five minutes ago let s say you re hitting it off with a cute guy at a party.
Sometimes they want to be close and connected like a coiled up elastic band.
For women things don t shift so quickly.
A healthy marriage is a able to recover from the rubber band s stretching and return to the relaxed state.
We hope we re talking about the same thing because as we think about it the first time we heard about the rubber band theory was when we originally read john gray s book men.